when libfems claim that radical feminism is white dominated: “WHAT NO, WE HAVE RADFEMS OF COLOUR, HERE LOOK AT THEM, HERE LOOK WHY AREN’T YOU LOOKING
When radfems of colour ask for support or solidarity: “STOP PLAYING THE RACE CARD” and *crickets*
y’all are a real true community, thank you so much :))))) i guess you’re cool with radfems of colour, just as long as we don’t talk, right?
my fave radfems (STAY AWAY FROM THEM1!!11!! EVEIL TURFS)
i know i’m forgetting a lot of people so just like this so i can add you, and message me if you want me to take you off!
have i lost my mojo? i used to be on every single radfem list in 2012/2013
Radfems don’t go about stalking trans women like they stalk us. If you hate us, stay away from our blogs and tags, I assure you we will not seek your nasty selves out. If you gender warriors fucked off we could actually blog about things we care about.
White liberal feminist: “I’m all for intersectionality!!! Transwomen should always be prioritised because they are the most oppressed in the entire world… Bio women of colour? Yuck, they’re just oppressing white trans women. Lesbians? They’re oppressing trans women by not fucking them. Poor women? They’re taking attention away from transwomen! Biological females in general? WHAT ABOUT THE TRANSWOMEN THO??????????????”
i want to make a list of all the wonderful radfems i love but the last time i did that the genderists found it and relentlessly attacked all of them :(
tbh if i was a transsexual with sex dysphoria i’d be pretty pissed off at these little tumblr babies transtrending at every opportunity and claiming they’re real women bc they wear skirts one day a week. it’s like someone saying “wow i’m so bulimic” when they feel guilty about one meal they eat
Het women tend to do a lot to justify their attraction to men. I know, mainly because I am one of these women. The problem is that it’s hard to understand that fucking or dating men is not now, and never will be, a feminist action. Society expects/demands that we form relationships with men and devote ourselves to them; it’s not revolutionary to do as we’ve been told for centuries - in fact, it’s fairly reactionary. Men (particularly het men) are thoroughly devoid of empathy for women, and generally treat us as nothing more than objects. Men may be “good” on rare occasions, they may not be overtly misogynistic or racist or hateful, and we grasp at anything we can to make ourselves feel better about this attraction - this is a good dude, he thinks women are people, he doesn’t rape women, he doesn’t hit them, but without fail, he will fuck up. It’s not that he’s necessarily a bad person, it’s that males have been trained since birth to not view women as human or equal, and it’s impossible to shed socialisation. I personally believe that my sexuality has been innate, but I understand that I will never know, as compulsory heterosexuality runs very deep. I have tried to block this attraction and seek political celibacy but it’s been quite difficult for me as I personally have many self esteem issues linked to my eating disorder and not having validation is a mental roadblock that is very harmful to me - I know this sounds like a cop out but it’s something I’ve been dealing with and is a big issue to me. Women need to have some cognitive dissonance to be able to be feminist and heterosexual, there’s no denying this, it’s almost impossible to find a man who is a true feminist ally and we will always bend over backwards to justify their actions. no matter how fucked up they are. I think it is possible to be heterosexual and to be a feminist, but it is in no way ideal. To be a feminist, one must always prioritise women and it is extremely difficult to do so when you’re going home to a man every night.
However, it’s not always easy to cut ourselves off from men, only in a fantasy world can one decide one minute to have nothing to do with men. Women have many attachments to men that are often very difficult to sever - some women are financially, emotionally, physically dependent on their boyfriends/husbands and a lot of het women face domestic violence at alarming rates. It is thorough victim blaming to suggest that they brought this upon themselves by dating men and I refuse to turn my back on them. They are doing what’s been told to them since they were little girls - acquiescing to men. Some women will realise that political celibacy or lesbianism is the answer. Some women will remain with men. I think it’s very difficult to be a het feminist, but in all practicality we cannot expect women to rapidly estrange themselves from all the men in their lives, we must face the reality of the situation. Sometimes it is just not that easy. I think it’s necessary for het feminists to realise how often we are lesbophobic and how often we prioritise men. Being a radical feminist means that we must always centre our activism on women, especially marginalised women. Speaking over lesbians is something that we all have done (incl myself) and we must recognise when we are out of line and need to back off from talking about areas in which we have privilege. I think it is possible to sleep with men and still do work for women (incl but not limited to activism and working in shelters, helping women we personally know who have faced abuse/DV/rape) and I think it is a folly to suggest that we are “burning bridges” by being het. It is certainly ideal to cut off from men - women face more danger from being with men than swimming in a tank full of sharks and it’s important that we advise them of their options, as no one’s ever said it’s okay to not be with a man and to be with women instead. We cannot force them to do so, however, and it’s cruel to cut them off from our feminism as I believe our goal is to fight for all biological women and ensure they are safe. Marrying men goes against all of our ideals, fucking men is not revolutionary. Staying with men is not revolutionary. Dating men is not revolutionary, but sometimes our personal choices are important to us too.
These are just my thoughts and I’d like to hear what everyone else thinks.
trans proverb: what do you mean it’s rapey to force lesbian women to date transwomen?????? consent is great but i mean have you actually considered why you don’t want to do this???????? have you considered that maybe your boundaries just aren’t that important and you’re oppressing people???????????????????