Sometimes I wonder if I’m being a bad ally to the LGB community simply because I’m straight and can’t see through some of the privilege associated with that. I try to always be aware, but my gay friends may be too polite to point out some of my issues.
If any of my followers finds any of the stuff I say to be offensive to the community, please let me know. I want to do more LGB activism, but some things I say may be clouded by privilege and I want to fix that.
I made a post about this a while ago, but the problem hasn’t been resolved yet. A lot of my friends are gay males (and a few lesbians) and I hear a tonne of biphobic comments (often questioning the existence of bisexuality, particularly in men, and saying that if it’s real, it’s just an “excuse to be slutty”) from them and I really don’t know how to approach the situation. I can’t speak from experience, but I do have a couple bisexual friends who become really uncomfortable with this blatant bigotry.
I’m unsure as to how to deal with this behaviour without being too rude about it, although it’s pretty fucking hard to not be angry, especially since these people are generally so open minded and understanding. Does anyone have any ideas?
“Woman” is not an identity you can freely co-opt. Altering your dress sense, your voice, your hormones and the way you act will not make you a woman, it will only illustrate your misogynistic ideals of what really makes a woman. Women are adult female humans. We are women through DNA, girlhood, socialisation, and shared experiences. We are not mannequins or eunuchs; our bodies are not something to own and utilise as you freely wish to do so. Mercilessly using women without wombs or certain functioning female organs as argument tactics for your trans agenda is cruel and sickening and you should be ashamed of yourselves. She is no less a woman if she is without a womb, or ovaries or any other female reproductive parts; her DNA and experiences make her a woman. That is more than can be said for you.
Women are important; women make up 51% of the world’s population. Do you deluded, psychotic whackjobs really expect us to erase their existence and alter their experiences so they’re more “transfriendly”?
Woman is a biological reality. If you have a problem with biology, take it up with science and not radical feminists. Stop trying to wipe females out in order to suit yourself. We are not a feeling in your head, we are not an idea. You have no fucking idea what it “feels” like to be a woman. No, just because you wore dresses as a child and played with barbie dolls, it doesn’t make you a female. Leave our biological reality alone, and while you’re at it, please stop invading our spaces and forcing lesbians to fuck your biological male parts. I notice you’ve still not started a cotton ceiling workshop to coerce straight men into having sex with you, why is this? Perhaps because you know you could never win against them? Fuck off with the homophobia, it is not okay to steamroll over lesbians and gay men. Either take on the straight community too, to prove that you’re not homophobic, or shut the fuck up and let people enjoy their sexual autonomy without guilt and peer pressure.
“Butch” lesbians and “femme” gay men truly demolish gender binaries… transgenderism enforces them.
Learn the difference.
You piece of absolute shit, I hope you step on a thousand Legos, scum. You have no right to say who is or isn’t a dyke.
[A dapper dyke wearing a porkpie hat a white button up and a black cropped vest. She is holding a pocket watch and is standing in front of a blue and white striped shower curtain]
This is me dressed up back in January for a 1920’s themed Chicago murder mystery party. I was a reporter named “Scoop.”
You are no dyke. You are a heterosexual male, not a lesbian. Stop appropriating lesbian experience, stop appropriating the term “dyke”.
Not the Legos! Nature says that you are not a dyke. “Dyke” refers to lesbians, lesbians are female. Lesbians cannot be male, you are male, therefore you are not a lesbian. See how that works?
Okay, maybe gaynotqueer has no right to say who is or isn’t a dyke, but I do. And this guy is not a dyke. Not even close.
I find it disturbing how this guy is trying to reclaim and use a slur that has been created by his ilk (heterosexual men) to oppress and discriminate against lesbian women for centuries. This behaviour is not okay. I find anyone (who is not a gay or lesbian person) using words like dyke or faggot to be a despicable human being.
These vile words are not yours to reclaim, straight men and women. Why do I need to tell you this?
I understand why gay, lesbian and bisexual people would not want me, a straight person who has never experienced any form of homophobia personally and has privilege in terms of sexual orientation (privilege that has oppressed the LGBQIA community for centuries), in their private spaces. I think not only are they entitled to such spaces, it should be mandatory for communities to create them so individuals have a place to go when they need to feel safe and understood, with others similar to them.
What I don’t understand, however, is why trans people cannot understand why natural born women deserve our own spaces too. We need safety, we need privacy and we need to connect with others like us. Why can’t you let us have the few spaces we’ve got left to ourselves? Why can’t you create your own spaces instead of invading ours and threatening us with rape and death if we stand up for our rights? Do you not understand that your behaviour is so entitled and aggressive and is in fact misogyny?
FIGHT BACK, FIGHT FOR WBW SPACES.
This is utterly fucking disgusting. And it perfectly illustrates why these heterosexual female impostors are not gay males at all. No gay male would feel excited at being called “faggot” on the street, when that happens we feel at risk for our safety and possibly our lives. I’ve had people yell…
wow, these people are fucking insane… I have many gay male friends who have been harrassed, attacked and bullied because of their sexual orientation (sometimes by their own goddamn families) and these naturally het females are appropriating gay male identities and ENJOYING/REVELING in something that causes so many real gay males mental and physical anguish?
These people should not exist on this planet. This behaviour is not okay.
Lesbians exist. Gay men exist. Transactivists, stop trying to force them into heterosexuality under the guise of “transphobia”. How are you any different to the disgustingly oppressive heteros who’ve prescribed “corrective rape” and brainwashing to convince gay men and lesbians that their sexuality is wrong, offensive and immoral?
fuck right off.